It’s always a mystery how everything falls into its proper places. It happens unexpectedly in a way that you’re not even aware.
Singlehood has been a blessing in disguise! Life is fast changing every single day. The moment you wake up each morning is already a miracle. I do believe in magic, I do believe in fairytales, I do believe in serendipity and I do believe that anything in life is possible unless you try.
I seem to have a career though it’s not nice paying but still I consider, professional in my chosen field, has a wide social circle, pleasing personality, acceptable philosophies in life, spontaneous lifestyle, and single yet happy. This is the best stage I will ever be in. I have been enjoying my singlehood for quite some time. To be honest I have my own fair share of ups and downs all through these years but I know this was a journey worth taking.
I had come to know myself more down from the little things up to the important details. Eventually learned that ice creams are my best comfort food ever and that I am always fascinated with pasta. I became certain that yellow is my all-time favorite color and for some reason I love buying things that is red. I became aware of my temper and my childish attitude, and somehow know that I got plenty of patience now. By and by I had the time to think and surprisingly fascinated by my written outputs. I am still certain that I love receiving love letters than some expensive gifts. One-by-one discovered the adventurous side of me when I began wandering; climb the mountain, cross rivers, stand and jump on a cliff. Finally realized that I am capable to exceed my limits.
It’s liberating to know yourself and it’s crucial as sometimes you may not understand your choices but that’s actually the point of singlehood, understanding and accepting every inch of you before expecting anyone to do that for you.
I can accomplish my very own life bucket list at my own pace. I can even give my best shot in my career growth. See that? I literally have the world upon my feet. Experience everything and seize every moment, because you have all the time in the world.
It’s sad that most of the single people these days are exhausting all their efforts and energy they have in order to find the right one; I’ve been there before, done that but enjoying this freedom for a while. Imagine yourself forty to fifty years from now, while sitting on your rocking chair, what are the things that you could possibly regret not doing when you were younger? Then do them now. Follow your most intense obsessions. Do things that scare you the most, because there is nothing greater than doing things you think you cannot do.
Pour out your love extravagantly that when people see it, they get moved and wonder how and why you never run out of love to give away.
My time for love will eventually come, but I need not stop my world from revolving while waiting for it. Singlehood is one of the best times of my life and I am embracing it. I never know, I might be done with this phase before I know it. Can I say I lived it well and enough? What is the most daring thing I’ve done so far?
Forty to fifty years from now, these will all become my own stories to share with my future partner, to my children, and even to my grandchildren. They’ll be amazed to know how cool their granny was when she was young.
I believe that life is all about timing, there’s a reason for Singlehood
This is the time I realized that I deserve a man who doesn’t agree with me all the time but when we argue, it feels as if we’re pushing each other to be our best selves. Someone who wants to sit down and talk with me until dusk turns to dawn about new beginnings, aspirations, desires, goals, the unknown, the indescribable feeling of ecstasy when we’ve accomplished something successfully. The one who knows that the touch of warm skin sometimes says more than a thousand conversations could.
I know I deserve someone just as independent and driven as I am. A partner who will inspire me and share the same vision as mine. The one who has his own goals and identity, and we will be each other’s support system. Someone who will trust me enough to give me space to grow. Someone who pushes me to travel down a path of understanding, to be unashamed and to fill myself with courage. A man who will be my partner in almost everything; in business career, in travelling, in a long chill in the coffee shops, in every meal, in every wine night, in every cup of tea, in every drop of disappointments, in every heavy load, in every mood swings, in every laughter, and toward success.
In Singlehood, you’ll discover your own person
I’m learning to let love find me when it’s real, when it’s simple, when it’s mutual and when it’s passionate.
Love is not complicated as it seems, all I know from sitting in a cafe this afternoon; while sipping a teal gray tea, is that this is what I’ve been longing for the entire years, funny how it’s that long now. I feel lonely sometimes but it doesn’t bother me because I know, God got me. He’ll surely arrive, and when he does, I won’t let go. I know this a bit far-reaching but I don’t care. I’ve been through a lot of ups and down, I wouldn’t mind taking the risk with caution, this time.
Sometimes in life, actually often times in life, God will allow you and me to go through brokenness, failures, mistakes, and disappointments; so that he can use us even more.
Travel is one of those things that transforms people. You become a more developed and well-grounded person because of the experiences and traveling skills you have learned.
Travel has given people the most comprehensive education anyone could ever receive. It fills up the gaps of knowledge and skills, and you start to see how everything is connected when you finally discover the similarities and differences of various cultures, of different places, and of your persona.
In traveling, nothing is going to be given to you, but the more you put yourself out there, the more uncomfortable you are willing to be; the more amazing the experience you will encounter, almost every single time. It changes people in a variety of ways. Each and everyone has different perspectives, approach, attitudes, likes, and dislikes; so it really varies in every person and on how you’re willing to cope with it.
Traveling Skills gained:
Flexibility, Tolerance, and Patience – Some of you live in a world that is highly organized. Sometimes you get thrown off by some little things that don’t go with what you have planned; like when things don’t arrive on time when things don’t work out our way, and when things turned out to be nothing.
What travel teaches you is that when things don’t work out how they supposed to be, it’s usually pretty fine. You can take that lesson back to your real life and try to learn how to be flexible on things, tolerate stuff that you don’t have control unto, and be patient when everything is not working out. These skills are simple but only a few know how to pull it off. One day you wake up without knowing, it turned out to be the most important experience you have had in your travels.
Socialization – When traveling you are forced to communicate, whereas introverts people are scared while extroverts people have no problem with it. Anyhow, traveling is a big opportunity in meeting new people with different languages and cultures. It is a bit overwhelming but it could be a life changer for you. Who knows the person you were talking when you had your breakfast in Italy would be your future client or business partner? Life has its way of working out, so do you.
Being immerse in social situations with new people having different values and dialects, you have to really try to communicate with them to get around and actually acclimate in the society. This skill will come in handy when you come back home. Socialization is a fundamental skill in order to succeed in life. Once you’re good at it you will gain self-confidence that will boost your self-esteem.
These are actually a life changer!
Decision Making – Some people have a hard time making decisions, may it be personal, for the family, for work, and etc. You might have a go-to-guy all the time to help you figure out what decision you must pursue or you might have someone in your life that makes decisions for you. But when you travel, especially when you’re alone, you have to make your own because you have no one depend on but yourself.
This skill will help you grow as an individual, you will discover your own person. What are your priorities, likes, and dislikes? This is important in life and you’re lucky if you learned it well while traveling.
Time Management – When you go to a new city or country, it’s likely that you will be there for a short period of time like a couple of days or a few weeks. Before you go to your travel destination you must be ready with your itinerary. What will you prioritize this day, what activities you will best do, and food to taste. This skill is very important not only for traveling but also when you come back home.
Budgeting – When you travel, money is likely to come into place. You have to spend your money accordingly, how much you need every day for your transportation, hotel, food, and miscellaneous.
Everyone knows that traveling is a great way to learn, but until you’re out there that you realize that the extent of the stuff you learn and still don’t know is fascinating. Traveling has taught everyone something that really essential for our personal growth and career; If you have the opportunity, go and grab it!
You were in a place where nobody knew your heart even a little bit. You build walls around it and wonders why no one ever saves you. You think you deserve that pain but you don’t. All you want to do is to wrap yourself in a duvet and cry your heart out until you fall asleep. You feel afraid, cynical and in doubt at the same time; and yet you manage to pull yourself over every single day.
To the girl who’s ready for love, just because you aren’t happy now doesn’t mean you won’t be.
Life will break you with its yearning. Nobody can protect you from that and living alone won’t either. You have to love. You have to take a chance. You have to believe that you are capable of love. You have to fight the fear inside you; forgive yourself for not knowing the things you didn’t know before you learned it. Unload all your baggage for you to feel light. Try not to compare yourself from the girl you once saw in the coffee shop or to the girl he left you for. Try not to feel jealous about the things, people or places because it’s toxic. Just keep living and let life happen.
To the girl who’s ready for love, sometimes your heart needs more time to accept what your mind already knows.
Love is not complicated as it seems. Let someone love you just the way you are – as flawed as you might be, as unattractive as you sometimes be, as unaccomplished as you think you are and as empty as you feel deep down. Align yourself with someone who supports your growth and if ever you meet somebody whose soul is not aligned with yours, move along. Don’t waste your time; don’t chase people and never fall into a one-sided relationship. Always know that you deserve better because you’re worthy of love and belongingness.
You wonder if things can happen too early or too late or if everything happens exactly the right time that you needed it. If so, love will always be sad and beautiful.
Darling, I assure you, your time for love will eventually come when it’s due. You don’t need to stop your world from revolving while waiting for it. Singlehood is one of the best times of your life, embrace it. Pour out your love extravagantly that when people see it; they get moved and wonder how and why. And by that time, you will never run out of love to give and you’ll be amazed how brave your heart has become.
To the girl who’s ready for love, be single until it’s time.
Enjoy your company; enjoy your time alone and learn that life is wonderful without explanations. Manage on your own, have the world upon your feet, learn new stuff and follow your intense obsession. This is the perfect time to love and spoil yourself abundantly.
To the girl who’s ready for love, never be afraid to fall back in love again.
Do not be cynical; trust everyone until they prove otherwise. Learn to let love find you when it’s pure, when it’s genuine, when it’s simple, when it’s mutual and when it’s passionate.
Just like the Sunrise; it rises stunningly and like the Sunset; it sets beautifully in its own perfect time.